What did pregnant women do before the internet?  Though sometimes I think there is TOO much information on the web, and that sometimes, a neurotic pregnant girl can drive herself mad researching anything from cribs, to car seats and cramps, when maybe instead she should be taking a walk or reading a book…Most of the time, I think the information highway is a gift from the heavens.

Several weeks ago, I started having a horrible side ache in my right side.  My husband and I were at our dear friends’ house for dinner and it was a Saturday night.  The last thing I wanted to do was moan and groan to our friends about my sharp, debilitating pains, so I just tried to tough it out, knowing we’d be heading home soon.

Once we finished dinner, I gave the “look” to my husband and he knew it was time to say adieu.  Immediately in the car, I said “Will you do a Google search for ‘sharp pains in your right side during pregnancy?’”

Of course, being the concerned hubby he is, he said “Well, shouldn’t we just call your doctor, babe?”

“No, no,” I protested.  “I just want to see if this feeling is common during pregnancy before I bug my doctor on a Saturday night.”

Rolling his eyes at me, he acquiesced with my request, and sure enough, within a minute, he was reading to me about “round ligament pain” and describing the symptoms and the explanations, and I immediately felt at ease.  What he read was exactly what I was feeling.  Even though I was still having the pain, which felt like quick jabs to the appendix, I felt so much better knowing this is a common thing during pregnancy as your round ligaments expand to make room for the baby.

There are so many new, strange, and often uncomfortable things happening to my body during pregnancy, so it helps to know that sometimes, a quick glance on the web can help you determine when to just relax and ride it out, and when there might be something more serious occurring that would necessitate a call to the doctor.

So though I much prefer browsing my favorite online boutiques (like Twilite Moon!) when surfing the web, it’s nice to know that sometimes it can put my husband and I at ease on a Saturday night…and I am sure we’re only a few months away from Google searching the term “how to soothe a crying baby…”

“To find out the baby’s sex or not to find out the baby’s sex”…that is the question.

We always said if we were lucky enough to get pregnant, that we’d want the gender to be a surprise at birth. It felt to my husband and me like this might be one of life’s last great surprises…and then, I got pregnant…and something changed.

I HAD to know what was inside me. I needed to know just as much as the doctors knew about my growing baby, and learning the sex before the birth is just part of the information we now can have, thanks to modern medicine.

I did feel a little guilty reneging on the deal my husband and I made, saying we’d wait and let it be a surprise. But I really did realize that the reason I was okay with it being a surprise was because I always thought we’d have a boy first. I don’t know why it is, but I just have always pictured us with a little boy. Of course, I’d love to be lucky enough to have a girl someday, too. I am very close with my own mom, and plus, I think girls take care of their moms when they get old. So yes, for purely selfish reasons, I hope I someday have a little girl, but I’ve always, always, always pictured our first baby having a weenie. So I thought, “Okay, let’s not find out the gender. Because it’s going to be a boy, anyway.”

Secretly, for the past couple of years, I have been stashing away baby boy clothing that I find on clearance sale, and my husband has already started a sizeable collection of Star Wars, Lakers, & Dodgers onesies, which I have already informed him will be “bedazzled” if indeed we find out we’re having a girl.

So now that we are about a week away from finding out the gender, I cannot contain my excitement. And of course, after all my preconceived ideas that we’d spawn a male child first, for some reason, I keep thinking this one might just be a girl. But therein lies the fun of not knowing yet — even though we are not waiting until delivery day to learn which public restroom our baby will have to use, finding out next week will be a big surprise, too!   And as I am quickly reminded by other new parent friends “Trust me, there are enough surprises that come with a new born that overshadow the surprise of which gender box they’ll check.”

I think everyone has to choose what’s right for them, and who knows? Maybe with the second one, we’ll decide to be patient and not find out until d-day. However for now, I am just giddy with excitement to find out what it is. We have already picked out our nursery bedding options, and depending on what it is, we will pull the trigger and make the purchase and then we can really get started on our dream nursery. And I really think I’ll connect with the baby more once I know all there is to know about it at this stage.

Apparently, there is a new over-the-counter test from CVS drugs that can detect the baby’s gender with an 80% accuracy rate. I just found out about this last week, otherwise, if it was earlier in the pregnancy, I just might have forked over the $35 for a chance to find out earlier…Then I realized, that’s at least 1/3 of the cost of the Burberry jacket I am saving up to buy for my baby…boy? Or baby girl? Oh who knows, either one will look smashing in it!

Plus, at this point, if I can’t even have the patience to wait one more week to find out, then at least I know I never would have been able to wait out the duration of the pregnancy to find out!